By Sandra Boyer

The Law of Perpetual Transmutation teaches that circumstances and things are always in motion—either coming into form or going out—based on your thoughts. That means your happiness, serenity, and peace of mind are within your control, depending on what you think about and how you think about it.

Have you ever been so exhausted from being unhappy that you finally just say, “Enough already?” That’s exactly what happened to me.

It happened to my husband too. He reached his breaking point, said, “Enough already,” packed his bags, and left to live on his own.

By that time, I had spent far too long living in what I call “the deepest, darkest reservoirs of earth, where all the scary creatures infest and crawl.” I was tired of the cold, the despair, and the pain. I had finally had enough of that nightmare. I wanted out. I wanted to stop hurting.

So—what now? That’s when people and experiences began showing up in my life with the answers I had been searching for. I learned that thoughts create. “Really? Huh.” No wonder I was miserable—I had been focused on negativity for so long that I was reaping an abundant harvest of it. Yuck.

I didn’t know exactly what I wanted at first—but I knew what I didn’t want. That was my starting point. I wrote down everything I didn’t want… and then wrote down the opposite. That’s what I decided to focus on.

What I knew for sure: I wanted to be happy. I remembered being happy once, but it had been so long that I couldn’t even recall what it felt like—or how to find my way back to it. But I was ready to try. I was ready to claim my happiness, right now.

If thoughts truly create, then my happiness was up to me. My thoughts were shaping my emotions. That was a life-changing realization. It wasn’t other people who made me happy or unhappy—it was me. I stepped out of the victim mindset and stopped seeing others as the source of my unhappiness.

I realized: I could do something about this.

Happiness was long overdue, and I was ready to choose it. I remembered a quote from Abraham Lincoln: “People are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Right then and there, I made up my mind. I believed my happiness was within my power.

So I chose it. I claimed it.

What did that look like?

One thing I started doing was affirming, again and again throughout the day: “I am happy. It’s my true nature to be happy. I AM happy.” Some days I repeated it over a hundred times, others just a few. But it made a difference.

At first, it was just a whisper in my heart. But as I stayed with it, those flickers of happiness grew stronger. Sometimes, the joy would well up so fully that my cheeks ached from smiling.

Another trick? When people asked, “How are you?”—no matter how I felt—I’d answer with enthusiasm: “It’s a GREAT day!” And often, I’d see their face light up. They’d say, “It IS, isn’t it?”

And you know what? That energy started coming back to me. People told me how happy I looked. At first, I was surprised. I thought, “Huh. This stuff actually works!” And even when I didn’t feel it at first, just acting “as if” I were happy often helped me become happy.

Here are a few powerful things that helped me along the way:

• Drop the victim mindset. Reclaim your identity and power.

• Tell yourself you’re happy—again and again—until you believe it.

• Watch or listen to things that make you laugh and lift your spirit.

• Avoid depressing news and media. (I haven’t watched the news in years.)

• Feed your soul with uplifting programs and talks.

• Greet others with a smile and cheerful energy, regardless of how you feel.

• Train your thoughts to focus on the good. There is always something good to find—seek it out.

• If someone offends you, search for the good in it. Send love and gratitude instead of resentment.

• Pray for happiness—for yourself and for others.

• Act “as if” you are happy, no matter what. It will become your truth.

The Law of Perpetual Transmutation reminds us: everything is always changing form. Thoughts create. So what did I want to create? Happiness. I made a conscious decision to align my thoughts, words, and actions with happiness—and in doing so, I created it.

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