By Melanie Valderrama

The Law of Polarity teaches that everything has an opposite. Every bad situation carries with it something equally good. When we look for the good, more of it begins to show up.

Back in 1999, I had been married for four years, and we were struggling financially. My husband had just lost his fifth job, and I was overwhelmed. I cried to my mom, who gently suggested that we move in with her. My younger siblings were preparing to leave home, so there was plenty of space for us. I accepted her offer, and we packed up and moved 700 miles away. Part of me was heartbroken to leave, but another part of me felt so relieved to have a safe place to land.

We ended up living with my parents for a few years, and eventually, we were able to move out on our own. Today, my husband has a great job and has been with the same company for five years.

Then, in February 2007, my mom suddenly became very sick. After a series of tests, she was diagnosed with Stage 4 terminal breast cancer. I was in shock. I didn’t handle the news well at all. My mom and I were incredibly close, and the thought of losing her felt unbearable. My siblings all flew in to spend her final days with her, and though that time was deeply painful, it also had moments of tenderness and joy. In March 2007, just a month later, she passed away.

Even though I had learned the Law of Polarity by then—and I knew there had to be something good hidden in all the pain—I couldn’t see it. Nothing about the situation felt redeemable.

But one morning, sitting alone in my car, it hit me. I was thinking about my mom when I realized: if my husband hadn’t lost his job back in 1999, I never would’ve moved to live near her. That one “terrible” moment had led to eight of the most meaningful years of my life.

During that time, my mom and I grew closer than ever. We took classes together, went out to lunch, and even learned to eat healthy as a team. She taught me how to teach piano and was there when both of my children were born. We shared conversations, laughter, tears, and celebrations. In her final years, I started diving deep into these universal laws, and we had some powerful talks about them. She was my biggest cheerleader. She encouraged me to keep learning, keep growing, and to share what I was discovering with others.

Looking back now, I see it so clearly: what once felt like a devastating setback had actually given me the priceless gift of time with my mom. If we hadn’t gone through that difficult season, I would’ve missed out on those irreplaceable years with her.

That’s the Law of Polarity in action.

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