One of the most common questions I get is this: How do I achieve my goals when my partner or spouse doesn’t think the same way I do about these principles?

There are so many directions we could go with this, but maybe this angle will be the one that makes a difference for you.

Here’s the heart of it:

If you want the kind of synergy you dream of in your relationship, you need a common goal.

I know that sounds overly simple—but at its core, that’s what it comes down to. If you’re not getting the support you wish you had, ask yourself: When was the last time we sat down together and talked about what we want our future to look like? Where do we see ourselves in ten years?

Maybe your spouse has lost their dream. Maybe life has worn them down to the point that they can’t think beyond today. If your dreams feel too far-fetched for them to believe in, try this instead: spend some time dreaming together about things that feel a little closer to home.

It doesn’t have to be a moonshot. Talk about what it might be like to be grandparents or great-grandparents. Reminisce over a favorite movie you both enjoyed. Reflect on the values and beliefs you do share.

The more you intentionally share with each other, the more naturally you’ll find yourselves on the same page.

If your dream is to travel the world, and your spouse just shuts down or grows more discouraged when they hear about it because it feels so far out of reach—then maybe that dream needs time to take root before you talk about it often.

You don’t have to bury it. But instead of leading with that big dream, lean into the common goals that help strengthen your relationship now. As your connection grows stronger, you’ll have more fertile ground to revisit the bigger dreams later—when it’s a better season.

If you’re arguing about things, it’s often a sign that you’re just operating on different frequencies. And if you want to harmonize your thoughts, you need to build a dream together.

The more time you spend with the same mental images, the more aligned your emotions will become.

That’s what it means to truly “get it together.” And you can start simply:

• Watch movies together about people who live extraordinary lives.

• Read inspiring books about remarkable people and talk about them.

• Fill your minds with the same kinds of imagery—images of a more ideal life.

That doesn’t mean you have to stick to self-help content. Sometimes, it’s the beauty and optimism in a classic film—like Mr. Smith Goes to Washington—that can lift your spirits and bring you into sync.

And finally, don’t underestimate the power of your journal.

If you don’t have someone to talk to about your dreams, write them down. Give them detail. Let them live on paper.

Because journaling isn’t just an emotional outlet—it’s a powerful step in preparing yourself to receive inspiration for how to make your dreams happen.

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